Well, it’s been quite the day. Cindy is finally ALL the way home. Here’s the story:
Coincident with Cindy’s arrival home on Thursday was the arrival of longtime Arizona friends Dan and Vicky Heller. Dan got here just in time to help carry Cindy up the stairs with me and a couple of strapping young angels that Alexandra Pinheiro had rounded up.
Friday was a relatively happy day, enjoying the company of old friends. They really were an encouragement for Cindy. Vicky made a delicious enchilada dinner, the leftovers of which we just finished tonight!
We started Saturday by getting Cindy into a chair and we all came up to her sitting room to have breakfast together. She was alert enough to smile for some pictures with the Hellers. After some tears, they departed for Phoenix and we got Cindy back in bed, where she slept for the rest of the day. She was not feverishly hot but was perspiring a little and her arms and face were a little cold.
We again went upstairs with dinner so that she would be in our company as much as possible. I had had an unexplainable sense of urgency to get all the kids together on the same page, so we sat down late in the evening to check in with one another and had a great talk. We prayed and sang.
About midnight, we went up to the room and gathered around Mom, prayed for her, and sang some hymns, lullabies, and worship songs. At one o’clock, I sent Mandy, Erica, and Peter off to bed. Beata and I started working to get Mom tucked in for the night. She was uncomfortable, so we sat her up for a while at her request. Beata began to sing again, the last song being “Jesus, Name Above All Names”. She spit up a little and we laid her down on the bed. As I was putting her head down, she gurgled a little bit and then she was gone. We were both taken aback at how quickly it happened. Of course, we had just prayed, asking God to either heal Mom completely or take her home expediously. I guess the latter was what he had in mind.
The peaceful atmosphere in the room is difficult to explain but it was very real. I called our pastor, Andy Zawacki, who came over and spent the next four hours with us and her. We talked, we prayed, we even asked God to raise her from the dead. Most of all, we were happy being together. We knew that our Lord had set Cindy FREE! At length, Andy called the funeral home and all of that process started.
Today has been exhausting for all of us, lots of phone calls, arrangements, etc.
The schedule is as follows:
Visiting hours Wednesday 4-7 PM at Light of the World
Memorial service Thursday 10:30 AM also at Light of the World
Details are at http://dufresneandcavanaugh.com/obituary_view/10006769.
There will be many difficult days ahead but we know that God is good. “It is well with my soul.” Jonny and Lisa arrive tomorrow. Please pray for us. We love you!
Love, Bob
Interestingly enough, the last song that Cindy heard in this world (Jesus, Name Above All Names) was also the song that we chose for our first dance at our wedding almost 28 years ago. Coincidence? Don’t think so.
Sunday, February 28, 2010
Thursday, February 25, 2010
Wednesday, February 24, 2010
Valentine's, another birthday, and beyond!
Hello! Here's an update from your friendly neighborhood Beata.
This chunk of time since the last update has been pretty interesting. It started off with a quick trip to the mall on Saturday with Dad to get Mom a Valentine's Day present. The family celebrated loving each other the next day, and ate too much candy. Erica had secretly found little presents for the rest of us, and I had secretly gotten her one! Perfect.
February 15th was Peter's 16th birthday. We celebrated by taking the birthday train down to the nearest Sonic (one of Peter's favorite places for a hamburger), which was an hour away in Kingston. He was so confused about where we could possibly be going! It was a satisfying surprise. Thanks, Mrs. Weiner, for staying home with mom so that we could celebrate Peter's birthday! (Peter followed this milestone birthday by acing his learner's permit exam on Thursday. Look out Albany!)
A breath of fresh air was a visit from Jennifer Hansen, another of the stalwart friends from the early days at Dartmouth. She really blessed us by showing up, making our home smell amazing, and by singing to mom. Thanks for stopping by!
On Wednesday, we took mom to the hospital for a follow-up CT scan. The appointment was late in the day, and among other things, they found a significant amount of fluid in her abdomen. They can easily remove this with a quick procedure, but it was past closing time and they wanted to do it early on Thursday instead. Since it had taken a WHILE to get mom out of our house (and I'm talking hours here) and to the hospital, we decided not to repeat the performance but to just leave her there overnight.
Well, one thing let do another, and she's still in the hospital! Items of discussion have included whether or not the chemo has been working (seems like it's hurting more than it's helping!), whether or not to discontinue chemotherapy (consensus is yes for the time being), how to help her become more mobile (she's not really mobile at all), how to outfit our home to accomodate her growing needs (we're in touch with the right people to get some equipment), and how we can help her be more mentally present (not sure on this one yet). We're glad her doctor is back from vacation, and while some of us have appreciated the slight break from constant care the hospital has given us, we all agree that we want her home! Pray with us that everything will fall into place for getting her back, and that she will wake up with enough energy to walk into the house from the car.
Through all this, mom's personality shines through. She saves a significant amount of energy every day for that moment when dad walks through the door -- her whole face lights up when she hears his voice. She loves her kids and makes us laugh often. We know our God's power is not limited by her current state of being, and we are learning how to trust him with her.
As always, many thanks for your cards, emails, meals, and hugs. I'm not sure how we'd be managing without our strong support network, and I'm sure glad we don't have to find out! We'll try to keep this more current for all you people who like to be on top of new info! Sláinte!
This chunk of time since the last update has been pretty interesting. It started off with a quick trip to the mall on Saturday with Dad to get Mom a Valentine's Day present. The family celebrated loving each other the next day, and ate too much candy. Erica had secretly found little presents for the rest of us, and I had secretly gotten her one! Perfect.
February 15th was Peter's 16th birthday. We celebrated by taking the birthday train down to the nearest Sonic (one of Peter's favorite places for a hamburger), which was an hour away in Kingston. He was so confused about where we could possibly be going! It was a satisfying surprise. Thanks, Mrs. Weiner, for staying home with mom so that we could celebrate Peter's birthday! (Peter followed this milestone birthday by acing his learner's permit exam on Thursday. Look out Albany!)
A breath of fresh air was a visit from Jennifer Hansen, another of the stalwart friends from the early days at Dartmouth. She really blessed us by showing up, making our home smell amazing, and by singing to mom. Thanks for stopping by!
On Wednesday, we took mom to the hospital for a follow-up CT scan. The appointment was late in the day, and among other things, they found a significant amount of fluid in her abdomen. They can easily remove this with a quick procedure, but it was past closing time and they wanted to do it early on Thursday instead. Since it had taken a WHILE to get mom out of our house (and I'm talking hours here) and to the hospital, we decided not to repeat the performance but to just leave her there overnight.
Well, one thing let do another, and she's still in the hospital! Items of discussion have included whether or not the chemo has been working (seems like it's hurting more than it's helping!), whether or not to discontinue chemotherapy (consensus is yes for the time being), how to help her become more mobile (she's not really mobile at all), how to outfit our home to accomodate her growing needs (we're in touch with the right people to get some equipment), and how we can help her be more mentally present (not sure on this one yet). We're glad her doctor is back from vacation, and while some of us have appreciated the slight break from constant care the hospital has given us, we all agree that we want her home! Pray with us that everything will fall into place for getting her back, and that she will wake up with enough energy to walk into the house from the car.
Through all this, mom's personality shines through. She saves a significant amount of energy every day for that moment when dad walks through the door -- her whole face lights up when she hears his voice. She loves her kids and makes us laugh often. We know our God's power is not limited by her current state of being, and we are learning how to trust him with her.
As always, many thanks for your cards, emails, meals, and hugs. I'm not sure how we'd be managing without our strong support network, and I'm sure glad we don't have to find out! We'll try to keep this more current for all you people who like to be on top of new info! Sláinte!
Thursday, February 11, 2010
Cindy's birthday visit from Lillian
Well, it’s been a week and a half since I last wrote. I keep holding off because Cindy wants to do it herself but never can get around to it. So I will again take the risk of updating it myself.
The major events since the last entry:
We were blessed by a visit from old Dartmouth friends Greg and Lillian Lennox and their son Chris last week. Lillian and Cindy were each other’s maid of honor and have remained best of friends all these years. Amazing! Greg and I were roommates at the famous “71” for half a year prior to their wedding. Lillian really lifted Cindy’s (and all of our) spirits – thanks so much for extending your visit, what a gift! She arrived last week just in time to spend a day with Cindy at the hospital receiving another couple of pints of blood. Tears were shed when Lillian left yesterday.
Cindy celebrated her 54th birthday on Sunday. Her overriding desire was to make it to church to worship with our church family, and she did it! The whole church spent quite a bit of time after worship praying for her – I cannot express what a blessing that was! This is the only outing that she has had in the past two months other than chemo/hospital visits.
She started with round 4 of cisplatin/5FU yesterday. She spoke with her mom this morning. She also sat up and actually read her own email (it may not sound like much, but that was a pretty big deal). She had some fruit and cottage cheese as well. There was less bilirubin in her urine today. Swelling in her lower extremities went down some today as well. The swelling has been painful and has made it difficult for her to fit into her normal clothes.
She is due for a CT scan next week to evaluate her progress.
Prayer requests:
Frankly, we have not seen much positive change from the chemo thus far (stamina, energy, acuity, etc). Please pray that it will start to do something. Of course, join with us in praying for God to heal her when we know that the chemo cannot. Pray with us that the chemo will not debilitate her further.
Please pray for decreased swelling, improved nutrition, mental status, pain management, courage, strength, hope, peace. These are all big ones.
The rest of us keep chugging along. Our house has never been cleaner (thanks, Lillian)! We are grateful for every moment we get to share with Cindy. Your support has been so wonderful. I can’t respond personally to all the notes, emails, and blog entries, but please know that they do lift our spirits a lot! Thank you so much. God is good!
Love, Bob
The major events since the last entry:
We were blessed by a visit from old Dartmouth friends Greg and Lillian Lennox and their son Chris last week. Lillian and Cindy were each other’s maid of honor and have remained best of friends all these years. Amazing! Greg and I were roommates at the famous “71” for half a year prior to their wedding. Lillian really lifted Cindy’s (and all of our) spirits – thanks so much for extending your visit, what a gift! She arrived last week just in time to spend a day with Cindy at the hospital receiving another couple of pints of blood. Tears were shed when Lillian left yesterday.
Cindy celebrated her 54th birthday on Sunday. Her overriding desire was to make it to church to worship with our church family, and she did it! The whole church spent quite a bit of time after worship praying for her – I cannot express what a blessing that was! This is the only outing that she has had in the past two months other than chemo/hospital visits.
She started with round 4 of cisplatin/5FU yesterday. She spoke with her mom this morning. She also sat up and actually read her own email (it may not sound like much, but that was a pretty big deal). She had some fruit and cottage cheese as well. There was less bilirubin in her urine today. Swelling in her lower extremities went down some today as well. The swelling has been painful and has made it difficult for her to fit into her normal clothes.
She is due for a CT scan next week to evaluate her progress.
Prayer requests:
Frankly, we have not seen much positive change from the chemo thus far (stamina, energy, acuity, etc). Please pray that it will start to do something. Of course, join with us in praying for God to heal her when we know that the chemo cannot. Pray with us that the chemo will not debilitate her further.
Please pray for decreased swelling, improved nutrition, mental status, pain management, courage, strength, hope, peace. These are all big ones.
The rest of us keep chugging along. Our house has never been cleaner (thanks, Lillian)! We are grateful for every moment we get to share with Cindy. Your support has been so wonderful. I can’t respond personally to all the notes, emails, and blog entries, but please know that they do lift our spirits a lot! Thank you so much. God is good!
Love, Bob
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